Emotionally Unavailable Women Are So Hot!
by Shimmie
There. I said it. And for those of you out there rolling your eyes at the thought you’re just plain wrong. That’s right — wrong.
The emotionally unavailable woman is super hot. She’s fun, flirty and more times than not, dangerous. That’s the kind of crap that really gets my motor running. And that, dear friends, is why it sucks.
Why can’t I find passion more easily with women who I know are better for me. Why don’t I sit and dream of dramatic sexual positions or other naughty thoughts about “safe” girls? I guess I’m doomed. Horribly doomed…
I recently struck up a conversation with an emotionally unavailable woman on the internet. She was attractive, smart and just got out of a really shitty relationship with a not-so-great woman. Bingo! Of course that last thing made her irresistible to me. Dammit.
I played it cool. She was blissfully unaware that I was sweating beads of lust for her. But in true Shimmie fashion, I let the ball drop and she picked up on my game. Oops. I got the whole speech from her about how this was a friendship and blah, blah, blah…dammit, again.
Needless to say, once my game was up she just wasn’t that interesting to me anymore. Oh, and I failed to mention that there was a miraculous mending of her relationship with that not-so-great woman. Didn’t see that one coming, or did I?
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January 28th, 2010 at 2:22 pm
I cannot for the life of me figure out why you think that emotionally unavailable women are hot! Maybe you are seeking someone that you cannot get emotionally involved with on purpose, maybe this is a way for you to keep your heart out of the equation, to keep people at arms length or maybe that’s just how you roll. I myself am in love with someone that is not available emotionally at the moment and it’s not in any way shape or form fun, or satisfying. Everyday I walk around with this awful gut wrenching feeling in my abdomen wondering if today will be the day that she tells me she misses me, or that she loves me, or that she thinks we should try to work it out, or that she would like to see me. I used to think that loving her was the easiest thing that I had ever done in my life, now I’m realizing that everyday is a battle within myself due to this situation. There are days that I just want to give up and let her go, but when I think about that my heart stops beating, it’s as though she is the blood that runs through my veins and I cannot survive without her in my life no matter how little time I get to spend with her. Have you ever had someone in your life that no matter what, you just couldn’t give up on them? That’s kind of where I’m at with her, emotionally unavailable or not, I simply don’t know how to not love her. Maybe my situation would be different and maybe I could see your point of view had she been “emotionally unavailable” in the beginning, that wasn’t the case though. We met, we fell in love, and then the past caught up. Every ounce of her love gives me strength and on days that I don’t hear from her I feel physically weak. My loving her has given me courage, and I don’t know how to let that go. The only regrets that I have are the harsh words that I’ve spoken to her on the days that I didn’t understand why she would push me away. One thing that I know for sure is that I will never be the same after loving her.
January 28th, 2010 at 3:16 pm
I was never talking about love. As I mentioned above, this was a situation of lust.
I appreciate your words, however, and I hope you find the strength you need inside yourself. You already possess everything you need — you just have to tap into it.
January 28th, 2010 at 5:43 pm
oh,I too have suffered from this fascination. I recently realized why I was drawn to the EMO-UNS. of course it is safe, if you suffer from a fear intimacy, you don’t have to worry about that with the EMO-UN girl. but there was something else going on for me. I was trying to resolve some childhood crisis by pursuing the EMO-UN. After this epiphany, I finally gained immunity.